30 June 2009
There is no stove, floors, internet, cable or phone at our place. And the floors are the biggest issue with 2 wee ones. So, for the second day in a row - we're camping out in the afternoon at my folks place. That way, Siah at least gets his nap.
The hardwood will be done today. Carpets come in on Thursday - so I'm assuming that I'll be kicked out on Thursday and Friday. Not really a big deal - not like some renos that last for months and months ... just a bit tricky with a 2 year old wandering around ...
And on a COMPLETELY different note ... anyone watch "The Bachelorette?" My hubby and I have a "date" every Monday night and evaluate the show together. We pause it (it's always taped) and kill ourselves laughing, or freak out in disbelief. Ok. That'd be ME freaking out.
Like, last night (IF YOU HAVEN'T WATCH IT - AND WANT TO - STOP READING) .... could any of you believe that Mr. "E" was back??? And for those of you who don't know how much I wept when he left (seriously - hormones are killer right now at 30wks preggo) ... check out my comments on my friend's blog here. So when he came back, I REJOICED. Literally. Trust me - not a pretty sight, but still, the happy dance was needed.
How did I get to watch it, without tv?? iWell, it was running last night ... just disconnected during the day for the renos ...
Ok. Gotta get off mom's computer (what am I, 12??). Hope life's treating you well!!
26 June 2009
The fireplace. Had a few friends write me their thoughts, and we chose to tile the entire face around the fireplace, except the shelves - which will have molding and be painted out white. A guy friend reminded me to put "feet" on the bottom of the pillars - note taken, AT. And HS? An ELK? You're whacked, dude *grin*. Thanks everyone for all your advice *smile*.
The renos. Painting looks like it'll be DONE today - with the exception of the baseboards, which will be done once the flooring is in. Hardwood has arrived - installation starts on Monday.
Worship. I had the privilege of leading at another church 2 weeks ago, and am leading at a different church campus this Sunday, then at our home campus the following week. Feeling a little overwhelmed with the amount of time needed to prepare for that ...
Friends. Had a LOVELY time with a good friend today. Perhaps some would think that she and I get together often - which is not the case. I see her in groups, but I cannot remember the last time we were together for a heart-to-heart. Such a great time of venting, learning, laughing ... and the kids played well too *smile*.
Baby. I've had a difficult week, after a friend lost her baby at 28wks recently. She just went to the dr. for a regular visit, only to find the baby had no heartbeat. Tragic. And yet another nagging reminder that none of us are safe from loss. I am taking another friend's advice, and trying to not walk in dread.
Hubby. He's been walking in his aircast for a week now. YAY!! Still - he can't get up in the middle of the night when our children need us, which is just HORRIBLE for me. Last night, Siah was up at 1:30am, my hubby woke me up and I had to oomph myself out of bed. Once I was up, the baby inside awoke ... then I couldn't sleep. So frustrating - can't wait for him to be able to do "night shifts". Hopefully before this new one comes, and I'm up anyways *wink*!!
Ok ... must run. Month end ... statements to balance, invoices to pay ... fun fun fun.
Have a good one!
25 June 2009
But this one is in a frantic rush - and I'm hoping I'll get SOME hits and comments *fingers crossed*.
Here's the thing ... the fireplace. I need to know WHAT to do!! Here's a pic of what it looks like today (kinda ruins the befores and afters ... but who cares *grin*).
Here's what I need help with. The fireplace sits above the floor. There will not be tile on the floor, just the main, shag carpet. SO ... what do I do with the 4 inches below the fireplace? I thought of continuing the baseboards from the walls, all along the base of the structure. But then it'd have to be notched out when it hit the fireplace (the baseboards are 6inches or so ...). OR we could tile all the way around the fireplace (not around the shelving), including along the floor. Our painter says he`s never seen baseboards around a fireplace, that it should be separate from the wall, not blend in.
These are the tiles we chose:
ANYONE. Please. Help.
They are black, not blue *smile*. And about 1inch wide ... small little guys. Love them. SOOOOO - dear ones - what should be painted out white (like the mantle), where should be tiled, what should go along the floor.
Oh - that'd be ours. *sigh*.
So, we're at the end of week 3, I think, and nothing's really finished ... just a lot of projects that are half-way or almost done.
Let's see ... wait! Yes, the bedrooms are done - they only had mouldings to put up. And Josiah's new room is painted (hoping for the CARS bed to arrive tomorrow). REALLY want to get his room finished and have him move in there ... and get the baby's room ready!
The crown is done, the fireplace is about half-way finished ... the front room has the wainscoting up, but nothing's been painted ... the kitchen is painted, but the lighting is more like hanging wires than lighting. And today, demolition begins on the powder-room. Glad I'm not potty training over the next couple of weeks!
Hardwood comes tomorrow, installation starts Monday. And they'll be having to break the slate tile as well. May have to move out during the day ... ah well. Better than breathing dust.
Pictures? Nothing ready yet ... hoping that we'll get Siah's room DONE this weekend and I can post the "before" (Tijuana *smile*) and "after".
Ok ... off to the granite guy and sink/faucet guy ... have a good one!
22 June 2009
And to be honest, I was a bit unsure of what it would look like, considering that my hubby had started limping in his air-cast last week, only to be told by his doctors to get off of it. So back into the wheelchair he went, or hobbling on crutches, such a difficult journey for him.
But this past Thursday, something changed. My hubby couldn't figure it out - but it was like he could all-of-a-sudden hobble in the air-case without pain. This was a GREAT thing and only 15 weeks since the accident *sigh* ...
This brings me to Saturday morning. We packed up the kidlets and took them to my in-laws where they were spoiled rotten *grin*, and were definitely fine with us leaving them there. My hubby and I arrived downtown, checked into the hotel we were staying in for the night (a BIG thank you to his clients who treat my hubby so great with a fantastic room-rate!!), then went to have a quick lunch.
After our yummy meal, we met up with 3 other couples at the spa. Yes - the SPA!! The guys had all arranged for us girls to get pedicures - which was SO fantastic for me, considering I can no longer reach my toes *wink*!!
Once our pedis were done, it was off to our favourite restaurant, KOBES, with an additional couple meeting us. All 10 of us took up an entire booth, and enjoyed laughing and eating the most fantastic "made-in-front-of-us" Japanese prepared food.
Then, as if that wasn't enough, it was off to see Coldplay. We sat with our good friends, and tried to take it all in. None of the four of us had been to a Coldplay concert before, and we were MESMERISED by the talent. We had good seats - but even better, when the band walked all the way to the back of the arena and played about 15min of tunes at a make-shift stage ... which was only 10 seats away from us!! I kept looking at my hubby, saying, "Can you believe this??" and he never replied - he was too busy videoing the whole thing with his phone.
And get this - the concert was videoed for DVD. So as a "thank you" to all of us "extras", the band gave out a free CD to each of us!!
The concert ended late - and after we said good-bye to all our friends - my hubby and I walked back to our hotel. WALKED - which in itself was a treat ... it's been months since he and I could hold hands and WALK together. SOOO great!!
It was a fantastic date, a much needed one ...
19 June 2009
15 June 2009
09 June 2009
ok ... so RATHER ridiculous of me to be doing a post on a book I've never read *blush*. But, the idea of this fascinates me and I think that the concept of these five languages is brilliant. They are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.
Lately, as I've continued examining myself and all the icks and yucks that I see, certain comments in conversations have really struck me. One being a conversation I had a month or so - and the conversation was actually about raising children, not love languages. But this woman said that she's been trying to teach her child to not have high expectations on people, because it simply leads to disappointment.
She had no idea how often her words would ring in my ears for days and days afterwards.
This brings me to my love language, or rather how I personally interpret love. For me, Words of Affirmation are the ticket to my well being. I look for them, listen for them ... a "good job", or "thank you" or "I noticed ..." or whatever, breathes life into me.
And I don't REALLY like that ... because as I continue to try and grow as "me", I realize that this particular love language is pretty high maintenance and so dependant on others. Which leads me back to what my lady-friend said to me about expectations on others. I find myself in a perpetual circle of "do they like me?" or "what have I done wrong?" or some other negative mind-set. Where did this come from? Well, I recognize the event that took place in my adult life that made me question all of the friendships that I had formed throughout my life ... so, seeing that (only very recently), is going to be the first step to me feeling normal again. Normal.
So, back to my love language ... it puts unrealistic expectations on others. So that is going to have to change ... it'll take time, but I want to learn to trust friendships again, without having to be affirmed and reaffirmed every 10 seconds, and I need to take this responsibility off of those whom I care about most - especially when they don't even realize it *smile*. In the same way, I'm going to try and keep my ears closed to those moments where I feel personally attacked, and I become defensive. I need to realize that being poked fun at is ok, or taking some criticism won't kill me *smile* ... to not take it as an insult. And if those comments are meant to hurt and destroy, then I need to simply walk away, for I am not nearly as strong as I may put on ... my skin is thin. Sometimes far too thin.
On a final thought, I found it interesting that I don't GIVE Words of Affirmation easily. Strange, I know. You would think that how I receive it, is how I would give it. But that's not the case. I SO admire those people who are Gift Givers - a small card, a trinket that made them think of someone they love, remembering a birthday ... My brain doesn't work that way, sadly. I'm sure I disappoint so many who receive their love that way ...
For me, Acts of Service is how I show others that I love them. Inviting someone over, making dinner or coffee, making them welcome in our home. Also, Quality Time is something that I give to those closest to me. Time is precious to me, so when I give it - it says "I love you" all over it. If I try and get together, if I pick up the phone or write an email to you, even a note on your FB wall *smile* ... I'm screaming "I love you" - even if it doesn't get heard amongst the bustle.
Have you thought about Love Languages outside of your marriage (ie your "friends" relationships)? Are they different than what you need from your spouse? Do you find that unrealistic expectations hurt you? Do you feel like you disappoint others? Well - I stand WITH you.
And for those of you who read this and think," What? What is she talking about?" , I applaud you - sincerely. I could learn a lot from you ...
08 June 2009
05 June 2009
Well, I call the extra room upstairs, "Tijuana". Why? Because it's where all the junk ends up ... clutter, mish-mash, extras, hostess gifts, gift wrap, card making supplies, boxes of old photos - before digi came into play, broken things, things to be mended ... you name it, you'll find it.
But now it's time to face the music - so today, I am attacking this room. I won't lie - I have a deadline of Monday to have my entire mainfloor and upstairs void of trinkets and wall hangings. So that has lit the fire under my toes.
"Tijuana" is now going to be Josiah's room, and Josiah's current room will be the new baby's ... and I'm taking a bunch of pics to get the full effect. His new room will be painted next week (fingers crossed) and his new Cars bed should be in the week following, or two.
For the full effect, I'm going to wait to post the "pre" pics ... trust me - it's mighty embarrassing. Especially over the last 13 weeks of my hubby's injury ... EVERYthing has ended up there. With the door closed *wink*.
It reminds me of an episode of "FRIENDS". Do you remember the one where Monica has a closet where it is jam packed with stuff and Chandler finds great joy that his wife has a junk closet? Well, the "Tijuana" room is kinda like that ... except neither of us are laughing *smile*.
On another note ... the colour palette keeps adjusting. Too grey, too green, too yellow, too pink. You change one shade, and the rest follow suit. Even the trim colour of white is enough to make me go cross-eyed. I mean, HONESTLY ... 50 shades of white to chose from? *sigh*.
But I shall choose, and I shall be happy with it. Right? *GRIN*.